Wednesday, October 01, 2008

Twenty-five Years of Marriage

Jim and I were married twenty-five years ago today, October 1, 1983. And, because this is a book blog, I'll tell about our book lives together. For some readers, this might be a retelling. But, after twenty-five years, a book marriage deserves to be celebrated.

Jim and I first met at the Huron Public Library in Huron, Ohio in 1981. I was Director of the library, and his mother sent him in, saying there was a cute new librarian, and he should go in. My children's librarian, Millie Schilman, introduced us, saying "This is Jim Holstine. He's one of our most prolific readers." It turned out, it was fun to talk about books with Jim. I suggested the book that became his all-time favorite, Jeffrey Archer's Not a Penny More, Not a Penny Less. It became his favorite, despite the fact that he never read British authors. He just didn't know Archer was British when I gave him the book.

Jim used to go to Florida every winter. When he was gone, in 1982, I told Millie that I missed Jim Holstine because he was the only person who got as excited about the boxes of new books as I did. I used to let him come behind the counter when I opened the boxes of new books. However, I'd never move him up to the top of the reserve lists. He used to talk Millie into doing that.

Jim and I married on Saturday, October 1, in the meeting room of the Huron Public Library. When we came out afterward, my staff had tied paperback books to the back of the car. We lived in Huron for the next two and a half years. During that time, the author, and the book, that became one of our favorite's, was Leo Buscaglia's
Love.

Jim couldn't stand the winters in Ohio, and I wasn't too keen on them either, so in 1986 we moved to Port Charlotte, Florida where I had accepted a job. A year later, I went to the Lee County Library System in Ft. Myers, where I stayed for seventeen years. During that time, Harry, Jim's father, lived with us for ten years. It wasn't unusual for Harry to come out of his room at night, and say, "It sure is quiet out here." Jim's response was always, "We didn't get married to talk. We got married to read."









Jim supported me when I chaired the Authors Programming Committee for the Lee County Reading Festival for five years. Together, we picked up authors, such as Sue Grafton, at the airport. We took Rick Bragg back to his hotel. Jim acted as author escort for Rick Bragg, and then we sat together at lunch with Douglas Brinkley and Rick Bragg, listening to them talk. It's still an experience we talk about.

When I was no longer happy with my job, because of the Library Director, it was Jim who said there was nothing keeping us in Florida. And, it was Jim who first talked to the Director of the Glendale Library System, Rodeane Widom. They spent so much time talking on the phone that I think Rodeane hired me so Jim would move to Glendale, Arizona.

We've been in Arizona for four years now, and we love it here. I have a terrific library staff, and Jim and I both enjoy going to hear authors at The Poisoned Pen Bookstore or Changing Hands Bookstore.

For twenty-five years, Jim has known and enjoyed the people I worked with. In fact, when he threw me a surprise party for my 50th birthday, he worked with my staff here at the Velma Teague Library. He's encouraged me with my blog, my book reviewing, and now, the Reader's Advisory classes I'll be teaching.

For twenty-five years, it's been fun to share a book marriage with Jim.

Happy Anniversary, Jim. Here's to more years of reading together.




27 comments:

Tricia said...

What a sweet post. Congratulations Lesa! (I love Jeffrey Archer too!)

SmallWorld at Home said...

What a fantastic story!! I love the part about "we got married to read" not talk. That reminds me of my grandfather saying, "Are we here to play cards or to talk?" Congratulations on your anniversary!

Lesa said...

Thank you, Tricia! That's still Jim's favorite book.

Lesa said...

Thank you for the anniversary wishes! I like your grandfather's comment. In our family, it would have been to play cards as well. Pinochle! What's your game?

Jim said...

Lesa,

Thank you & Happy Anniversary!!

Love... Jim

Lesa said...

You're welcome, Jim! Thank you for 25 years of reading together.

Happy Anniversary!

Love,
Lesa

Lorna Barrett said...

Happy Anniversary Lesa and Jim!!!

Maria said...

Happy, Happy Anniversary!!!!

Corey Wilde said...

Happy anniversary, and I wish the both of you many, many good books in the future.

pattinase (abbott) said...

Happy Anniversary. My husband and I share a love of books, but never the same one. Best wishes for a great day and a great 25 more.

Lesa said...

Thank you! Lorna, Maria, Corey & Patti! I just got back from an exhausting work day, and have two hours to go. Since it's the first time I've had a chance to get on my blog, I wanted to thank you all for the good wishes. Jim & I appreciate every one of them.

Thank you!

Jen said...

What a fantastic post, Lesa! I'm so happy to hear about a wonderful marriage that started with books. I wish you both many more years reading together!!

Lesa said...

Thank you, Jen! It totally started with books. Thanks for the good wishes!

Patti O said...

Happy Anniversary!!! I think I told you that Ken and I met at the library too :)!!! We read together, and talk so much about what we read; in our case, we don't read the same thing too often. And we also enjoy attending signings together. We found two very terrific guys, didn't we?

Enjoy!!!
Patti

Lesa said...

Yes, definitely, Patti!

Thank you for the good wishes. I'm teaching Reader's Advisory classes, and I'm going to tell them the story of suggesting Not a Penny More, Not a Penny Less, and say this is what Reader's Advisory can lead to.

Kay said...

Happy anniversary to you both! This was one of your best entries I think! Thanks for sharing your live with us! :-)

Lesa said...

Thank you, Kay! We both appreciate it. Jim's been reading all of the comments and wishes today, and he read yours before I did. He told me to check out the message. Thank you for saying it was one of my best!

Helen Ginger said...

Happy Anniversary Lesa and Jim.

I loved reading about the two of you and your love of books and each other. May you have another 25 years.

Lesa said...

Thank you, Helen! Jim says he'll barely make another 25, but he's going to try, if his health holds out. Thanks!

Anglers Rest said...

Congratulations to you both!

Lesa said...

Thank you very much! We're hoping for another good 25 years, if our health holds out!

Cathy said...

Wonderful post, Lesa--congratulations!

Lesa said...

Thank you very much, Cathy!

Yasmin said...

What a great tribute...and here's to 25 plus more years with Jim!
xoxo

Lesa said...

Thank you, Yasmin! We both appreciate the good wishes!

Joy said...

How sweet!!! Okay so it's belated by 9 days, but it doesn't make my wishes any less from the heart. Happy Anniversary, Lesa & Jim!

Lesa said...

Joy,

We'll take the good wishes whenever we get them. Thank you!