tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9995206.post8157146415467524830..comments2023-11-03T06:20:06.604-05:00Comments on Lesa's Book Critiques: Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone by Eric KlinenbergLesahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12946133849271512083noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9995206.post-70759144180250175992012-03-21T15:32:04.990-05:002012-03-21T15:32:04.990-05:00In May I will celebrate my 25th wedding anniversar...In May I will celebrate my 25th wedding anniversary. It will be a celebration of the give and take necessary for a successful long term relationship. Recently, a young man entering into marriage asked me the secret to being married for 25 years. I immediately responded with, “it’s a choice”. See I believe that each day we make a choice to pursue happiness or discontent and the choice is how hard we want to work at which one. There have been times, even extended time, when my focus is on the discontent. That is one of the reasons I connected to the book Going Solo, in that living alone is a choice that can provide for individual growth and happiness. I feel Going Solo would be a good book for married couples to read to provide an understanding of what goes on in the mind of individuals who choose to live alone and why that choice is rewarding. Specifically, the considerations of schedules, habits and space that occur in a cohabitated relationship. This book would provides insight into the frustrations surrounding issues that occur between couples about scheduled, habits and space. Only this morning two female colleges and I were discussing the demands on our time and space in the home and how our husbands perceptions differ from ours . I don’t not want to infer that these perceptions only belong to women, the book clearly shows that both genders at times prefer to live alone. I would encourage everyone to read this book to have a better understanding of living with another person.Karen Walkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00228667051293310999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9995206.post-22723059086107736472012-02-26T16:39:38.409-06:002012-02-26T16:39:38.409-06:00I was wondering about that "long line of sing...I was wondering about that "long line of single women" so I'm glad you clarified. :)<br /><br />Thanks for being on the tour!Heather J. @ TLC Book Tourshttp://tlcbooktours.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9995206.post-43385026070656028032012-02-23T02:06:07.425-06:002012-02-23T02:06:07.425-06:00Susan, I think my mother would have said the same ...Susan, I think my mother would have said the same as you when my father died - of course she would have liked him back, but she soon started to enjoy her single life - over the past 40+ years she has done many things that she probably wouldn't have done if my father had lived (of course they would have done other things) - she has many friends and a very full and interesting life, and certainly wouldn't think of herself as 'broken'. Good luck to you in your new life.Rosemarynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9995206.post-30012575779080327802012-02-21T15:27:42.515-06:002012-02-21T15:27:42.515-06:00Thanks for this review, Lesa. I'll look for th...Thanks for this review, Lesa. I'll look for the book. I'm relearning how to live alone after helping my husband, and the love of my life for nearly 29 years "die well" of brain cancer last fall. I have to say that much as I wish I had my love back with me, I'm reveling in the solo life. What I don't love is people's assumptions about what being a widow means--empty, broken, somehow less than a whole person. I'm a memoirist, and in fact, one of my blog fans pointed me to your review after reading my "Woman Alone" post. Thanks again for the timely and useful review! (http://susanjtweit.typepad.com/walkingnaturehome/2012/01/woman-alone.html)Susan J Tweithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07672965940786234043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9995206.post-46276268190148936752012-02-20T17:14:30.650-06:002012-02-20T17:14:30.650-06:00Your mother is perfectly right, Rosemary. I loved ...Your mother is perfectly right, Rosemary. I loved my husband of 27 years, but I love my life alone now.Lesahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12946133849271512083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9995206.post-50455434138037908152012-02-20T15:26:02.631-06:002012-02-20T15:26:02.631-06:00I have been married for 21 years and I still often...I have been married for 21 years and I still often miss living alone; I've only recently been able to establish a little study of my own, and I absolutely love it. I can't understand people who say 'don't you get bored?' if my family are all away - the answer is definitely NO. My mother was widowed at the age of 39 and has never wanted to remarry - she likes having visitors but says she also likes being able to close the door after they've left!Rosemarynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9995206.post-56163186257560646582012-02-20T10:34:56.633-06:002012-02-20T10:34:56.633-06:00I can understand that, Beth. I love living alone n...I can understand that, Beth. I love living alone now, and I don't want to share. I keep trying to tell a friend that who wants to get married. I've told her she's too used to living alone, and she would have a hard time adjusting, but she doesn't get it.Lesahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12946133849271512083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9995206.post-75683269841394785712012-02-20T10:18:33.862-06:002012-02-20T10:18:33.862-06:00I'm interested in reading this book. While I l...I'm interested in reading this book. While I love my husband and am glad we're married, I adored living alone and had a hard time sharing a living space after we married. And even now, I have a "single" mindset that's never wavered.Beth Hoffmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16770840174293503835noreply@blogger.com